The Relationship You Actually Want is Possible
Couples therapy that goes to the root — not just the surface.
Jordan & Priya — Distancing and Resentful
Married eleven years, two kids, careers they were proud of. From the outside, they looked like a team. Inside, they felt like strangers sharing a very full life.
WHAT THEY WERE STRUGGLING WITH
The busyness had become a buffer. Jordan was present for logistics but checked out emotionally. Priya’s longing had curdled into low-grade resentment. Neither was cruel. Neither was happy. They called it “just coexisting.”
HOW THEY SHIFTED
In therapy, they discovered the distance wasn’t indifference — it was self-protection. Beneath Jordan’s withdrawal was a fear of never being enough. Beneath Priya’s criticism was a longing to be truly seen. Once they could name what was underneath, they stopped managing each other and started reaching for each other.
Kai & Solène — Deep Relational Trauma
Seven years in, living together with a young child, both in demanding careers. They loved each other — and their relationship had a volatility that frightened them both.
WHAT THEY WERE STRUGGLING WITH
Arguments escalated fast and landed hard. Small things could crack something open that took days to repair. They’d tried everything. What they didn’t yet have language for was the way their childhoods were quietly running the show — wiring their nervous systems for threat in close relationships.
HOW THEY SHIFTED
Therapy gave them a map of their own nervous systems — and a way to share it with each other. Kai learned to stay emotionally present even when every instinct said shut down. Solène learned her intensity wasn’t “too much” — it just needed a different kind of response. Gradually, their relationship became the safest place either of them had ever been.
Soren & Amara — Betrayal
Married thirteen years when an emotional affair came to light. Their life looked stable — which made the rupture feel even more disorienting.
WHAT THEY WERE STRUGGLING WITH
Amara couldn’t stop the questions — the timeline, the why — on an endless loop. Soren, consumed by guilt, oscillated between over-explaining and shutting down. Both of which left Amara feeling more alone. They were in tremendous pain, but it wasn’t connecting them.
HOW THEY SHIFTED
The work wasn’t about forgiveness timelines. It was about both of them becoming more honest than they’d ever been — about unmet needs, accumulated loneliness, and the ways they’d quietly stopped turning toward each other. What they built on the other side wasn’t the marriage they’d had. It was something more real, and more theirs.
The only way out of something is all the way through it. — Maya Angelou
Three different stories. The same thing underneath.
Every couple above came in with a different presenting problem. But underneath each one was the same territory: attachment wounds formed long before this relationship, nervous system patterns running on autopilot, and relational blueprints inherited from families neither partner chose.
This is what most couples therapy doesn’t reach. And it’s exactly where this work begins.
What makes this work different.
I work exclusively with couples using PACT and AEDP — two of the most rigorous, science-based frameworks available for couples in real distress. Both work at the level of biology, attachment, and nervous system, reaching what communication skills and talk therapy alone cannot.
I am not simply trauma-informed — I am trauma-trained, with deep clinical expertise in working with complex trauma as it emerges between partners in the room. I also consult regularly with Stan Tatkin, the founder of PACT, keeping my work at the leading edge of couples therapy.
“There is nothing in the world more difficult than another human.”
– Stan Tatkin
Hi, I’m Teena.
Why I do this work.
I know what it’s like to be shaped by patterns you didn’t choose. Growing up, I developed survival strategies that protected me then but showed up in my relationships later — in ways I didn’t always recognize until I did the work to see them clearly.
I’ve walked the path I ask my clients to walk. Untangling old dynamics, learning to love from wholeness instead of woundedness, understanding how the past runs the present. That path changed everything for me — and it’s why I believe so deeply that it’s possible for the couples I work with.
Every couple that builds secure functioning carries that forward. Every cycle broken means something different inherited by the next generation. That’s what keeps me in this work.
I’m a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and PACT-trained couples therapist based in Boulder, CO. I work exclusively with couples — because the relationship itself is where the deepest healing happens.
I’ve spent my career at the intersection of trauma healing and couples work, training at the highest levels available in this field so I can offer something most couples therapy simply doesn’t reach.
“This place where you are right now, God circled on a map for you.”
– Hafiz
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